Polyamory

Hoopla · Post Post #14 (isolation #0) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 3:28 pm

I really think polyamory is a sensible life option, but most people I've talked with seem to automatically discount this as a viable lifestyle. Even when I've been involved in open relationships, additional relationships for me have almost always been just physical, with them generally being from monogamous backgrounds. To me, it's odd such people can submit themself to something physical - while emotional attachment is deemed as a bigger no-no.

Have you found this to be true? To me, it almost seems like a compromise from the monogamous mindset, half submitting themself to something that undermines their choice, but still unable to realise this to be the case. When you meet someone, do you wait before telling them about your lifestyle? What sort of reactions/opinions/arguments do you get from people?

Hoopla · Post Post #24 (isolation #1) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:28 pm

Hey ythill, are you open to the possibility of someone else growing or evolving into the position of your (or your wife's) primary lover?

Hoopla · Post Post #49 (isolation #2) » Mon Feb 01, 2010 3:27 am

reposting, 'cause it was missed

Hoopla wrote:Hey ythill, are you open to the possibility of someone else growing or evolving into the position of your (or your wife's) primary lover?

Hoopla · Post Post #574 (isolation #3) » Sat Aug 07, 2010 9:27 pm

GroupThink wrote:Sorry, but I don't like the thought of someone running through me and then leaving me for someone else. I need a teammate, not a sex toy; I'm trying to change the world and I need help - living dildos don't suffice.

The 'leaving you for someone else' thought doesn't really exist so much in dedicated polyamorous circles - it's being left because you suck that you have to worry about.

Hoopla · Post Post #600 (isolation #4) » Fri Oct 22, 2010 10:31 pm

Where exactly was his objection rooted?

Hoopla · Post Post #682 (isolation #5) » Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:30 pm

Fate wrote:(in case anyone thought this was my MO or something to get attention from multiple people and fuel my ego)

No, of course not. Don't be silly.

Hoopla · Post Post #706 (isolation #6) » Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:17 pm

Ythill wrote:QFT. Developing feelings based upon an implication is not a good idea. Frank communication FTW.

Frank communication is fucking boring.

Hoopla · Post Post #709 (isolation #7) » Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:33 pm

Brandi wrote:
Ythill wrote:If you care about them even a little, stop lying to them right now.
100% This.

57% This.

Hoopla · Post Post #723 (isolation #8) » Mon Jan 31, 2011 5:05 pm

Albert B. Rampage wrote:So how old is Fate?

20.

Hoopla · Post Post #727 (isolation #9) » Mon Jan 31, 2011 5:17 pm

Fate wrote:Hoopla may be internet stalker and master-cyberwebz, but if she thinks that my birthday on my alts are accurate as well then "lol"

I don't. That's why you are 20, rather than 22 like one of your alt's claims.