Polyamory

UncertainKitten · Post Post #9 (isolation #0) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 2:46 pm

How do you think an imbalanced poly relationship works? I mean, assuming both parties are fine with it? It's part of a power imbalance thing so it's kinda expected that things get a little odd.

UncertainKitten · Post Post #15 (isolation #1) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 3:50 pm

ythill wrote: I'm not sure what you mean. What sort of imbalance?

A situation where one side of the relationship is polyamorous and the other monogamous. It's an odd situation but um...my friend feels better devoting herself to the person she loves, whereas the person she loves prefers to keep several girls but...she doesn't mind this at all, and generally doesn't feel too jealous about him and such. Is this sort of thing doomed to eventually fail or can it work out?

UncertainKitten · Post Post #29 (isolation #2) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:33 pm

Ythill wrote: If it's okay with them I don't see why not. I think the key here is whether the girl in your example is free to do what makes her happy. If she feels like she's allowed to see other people but chooses not to, then I don't see what's wrong with it, except that she'll have to deal with his un-faced fears if and when she changes her mind. If she feels like she's been manipulated into a one-sided situation, then it's not healthy IMO.

Well, she knew from the outset how the situation would be, and it was her choice to accept or not. Considering it ties into a master/servant situation, it kinda makes sense that it's "one sided", but she did understand that before she submitted. What I guess I mean is if the situation is explicitly known that she's not to 'stray' (and doesn't desire to), and is also made aware that her master would play with other girls, and accepts all that, is it liable to stay stable?

Course, there are other components but they don't tie directly into polyamory.

UncertainKitten · Post Post #32 (isolation #3) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:40 pm

shaft.ed wrote:
UncertainKitten wrote:
Ythill wrote: If it's okay with them I don't see why not. I think the key here is whether the girl in your example is free to do what makes her happy. If she feels like she's allowed to see other people but chooses not to, then I don't see what's wrong with it, except that she'll have to deal with his un-faced fears if and when she changes her mind. If she feels like she's been manipulated into a one-sided situation, then it's not healthy IMO.
Well, she knew from the outset how the situation would be, and it was her choice to accept or not. Considering it ties into a master/servant situation, it kinda makes sense that it's "one sided", but she did understand that before she submitted. What I guess I mean is if the situation is explicitly known that she's not to 'stray' (and doesn't desire to), and is also made aware that her master would play with other girls, and accepts all that, is it liable to stay stable?

Course, there are other components but they don't tie directly into polyamory.
Not to be ignorant of the situation, but I thought that was normally how master slave relationships worked?

Probably so. I'm relatively inexperienced. I'm just curious about the stability of said situation. It's probably fine though.

UncertainKitten · Post Post #35 (isolation #4) » Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:44 pm

Cobalt wrote:
UncertainKitten wrote:
shaft.ed wrote:
UncertainKitten wrote:
Ythill wrote: If it's okay with them I don't see why not. I think the key here is whether the girl in your example is free to do what makes her happy. If she feels like she's allowed to see other people but chooses not to, then I don't see what's wrong with it, except that she'll have to deal with his un-faced fears if and when she changes her mind. If she feels like she's been manipulated into a one-sided situation, then it's not healthy IMO.
Well, she knew from the outset how the situation would be, and it was her choice to accept or not. Considering it ties into a master/servant situation, it kinda makes sense that it's "one sided", but she did understand that before she submitted. What I guess I mean is if the situation is explicitly known that she's not to 'stray' (and doesn't desire to), and is also made aware that her master would play with other girls, and accepts all that, is it liable to stay stable?

Course, there are other components but they don't tie directly into polyamory.
Not to be ignorant of the situation, but I thought that was normally how master slave relationships worked?
Probably so. I'm relatively inexperienced. I'm just curious about the stability of said situation. It's probably fine though.
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(no offense to people who are Christians. I'm merely referring to the more obnxious among you with that epithet)