Persivul wrote: But I'm old and conservative, so my view probably isn't worth much around here.
For what it's worth, I'm married and can relate to what you said about your relationship with your wife. My wife and I do everything together. If I want to get a few guys together for a poker game, they know to deal her in. If I'm watching football, she's on the couch next to me. If she makes plans with her friends, I'll ask what time I should be ready. And the whole "paranoia" thing? We just laugh at that.