"Happy holidays" is bullshit Christian normativity.
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It's the only time of year that I'm conscious of the existence of multiple holidays.In post 67, saulres wrote:Let me rephrase then. Why do you say "Happy Holidays" at this time of the year, but not at others?- Psyche
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Also, this is red herring bullshit. None of the people who go out of their way to say "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas" or whatever are the ones kicking the crap out of jews. "Happy Holidays" is an active attempt to avoid the otherization and and attempted normalization of one religious ideology you complain of.Furthermore, as someone who vividly remembers getting the crap kicked out of him in middle school for being the only jewish kid in the class, I can personally tell anyone who wants to say "it's just being nice! there's nothing wrong with it! it's just PC bullshit." that otherization and the attempted normalization of one religious ideology has real world consequences for real people. It's not just you being nice, it's you actively participating in a system of control that is hurtful and offensive.- Psyche
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They are illegitimate. I don't care if you can construe it as an action of the majority. If you are wrong, you are wrong.Member of the majority: You shouldn't feel that way. Your feelings are illegitimate.
If you want anyone with sense to take your objections seriously, you have to convincingly explain why your being offended isjustified. Simply being offended or feeling passionate about it is not enough.
Please, don't make assumptions about the sort of experiences people you do not know have. It's a really dickish thing to do.I have no idea how your positions feels, because I am not ever subjected to it, but I still feel comfortable telling you to get over it. I don't mean to be offensive!- Psyche
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Great.In post 102, Tamuz wrote:You can certainly conclude that their reason to be offended isn't valid, but that is your conclusion and it is, of course, informed by your perspective.
No, it's a rhetorical tactic to discredit whomever you want. Your example's power comes not from the fact that anger is identified, but from the implication that the anger's source is not legitimate.But to assert that someone chooses to be offended is the same as asserting that people are angry; if my response to every female in this thread was "WELL I CAN SEE IT'S YOUR TIME OF THE MONTH", it would be the same thing. It is a rhetorical tactic to discredit a victim.
Whether the source is legit is in fact the point that tsq is failing to convincingly argue.- Psyche
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Identifying rhetorical devices is surely easier to do than actually addressing an argument, but it's not as effective at actually changing minds.
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In post 63, Psyche wrote:
the problem with shea's post is the fact that this is innaccurateWhen you say happy holidays, what you are actually saying is "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."- Psyche
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I really thought a linguist wouldn't be so inclined to equivocation.In post 109, Tamuz wrote:
Your argument here is "you're wrong cause you're wrong". I'm not sure what more to do with that than express that it is a tautological statement.In post 105, Psyche wrote:Identifying rhetorical devices is surely easier to do than actually addressing an argument, but it's not as effective at actually changing minds.
pedit. OK, so your argument is Shea is wrong because he is wrong. Come on dude, be intellectually honest.- Psyche
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That means you aren't reading.In post 110, Tamuz wrote:
Quote your arguments. All I've read from you is:In post 108, Psyche wrote:Tamuz, drawing a poor and unflattering analogy is also different from and less effective than actually addressing an argument.
1. "Shea is wrong because he's wrong."
2. "Shea doesn't know my life and my struggles, how dare he say something!"- Psyche
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Let's make it thorough.
red herringIn post 0, Thestatusquo wrote:I am religiously atheist and culturally jewish. I don't believe in god above, and I certainly don't believe in your little baby jesus. Furthermore, as someone who vividly remembers getting the crap kicked out of him in middle school for being the only jewish kid in the class, I can personally tell anyone who wants to say "it's just being nice! there's nothing wrong with it! it's just PC bullshit." that otherization and the attempted normalization of one religious ideology has real world consequences for real people. It's not just you being nice, it's you actively participating in a system of control that is hurtful and offensive.
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not an accurate account of the literal meaning, utterance meaning, or impact of the phrase "Happy Holidays". Why? Because the literal meaning of happy holidays is not "celebrate christmas". When I and others say it, I do not mean, "Celebrate Christmas" or, more importantly, think that you should, When I and others say it, I do not cause you to celebrate christmas with me.When you say happy holidays, what you are actually saying is "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."
Ignorance about another culture != "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."This is true for two reasons. First, when you wish me happy holidays, you are only demonstrating your ignorance of the fact that the "Holiday" I am supposed to be celebrating ended roughly 2 weeks ago. If someone were to wish you happy holidays on January 9th you would look at them a little funny and wonder what they were talking about. I don't have to do that, because I know what you're actually talking about. You're talking about Christmas. Stop with the patronizing, faux-inclusive bullshit.
And, no. I'm talking about the many holidays I sincerely believe are happening around Christmas.
Ignorance about another culture != "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."The other reason it is true is because Hanukkah is not an important holiday. Like, at all. It is minor as all hell. In terms of important holidays Hanukkah is about as important as boxing day is. To Americans. It just happens to be almost exclusively the only Jewish holiday that Christians know about. It's almost as if this is because they trot it out to act like their Christmas celebrations are somehow secular. They sing 6 Christmas carols and 1 Hanukkah song at the kids "Holiday concert" and they go home in their nice little subaru foresters marveling at how cosmopolitan they all are.
Because the instances of ignorance described here has nothing to do with the Christian normativity thesis as described by TSQ, they have no bearing on the question of whether "Happy Holidays" in fact advances this thesis.
Since these are the only reasons brought up for tsq's argument, but they do not actually support it, tsq's position is unjustified and his state of offension lacks legitimacy.
This post argues more effectively that Christians are ignorant about Hannukah than anything about Christian normativity.- Psyche
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Somehow I don't think my argument consists of those two sentences you cherrypicked from the many others I've made ITT. Both, in fact, signified much more in context.I mean I honestly don't see what isn't tautological about these statements. There is no explanation of how 'you' is wrong, just that you is and the reinforcement that 'you' is wrong. On the first one, again, no explanation, just the assertion of truth the word 'fact' makes and the continued assertion of falsehood that inaccurate makes. Neither statement explains anything other than a reflexive truth.- Psyche
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You're still wrong. I didn't quote it because quoting ten posts is hard. What's intellectually dishonest is making an unreasonable request and then using failure to meet that request as evidence of some victory for your side. You repeatedly avoided addressing my argument in order to make an irrelevant point about two sentences you picked out from my iso. That's strawmanning and that is bad.In post 119, Tamuz wrote:I wasn't picking those statements to show you have no point. I was pointing that out as self-encompassed tautological statements. You moaned on for 5 posts like they had value and refused to quote your point. When asked to quote, you still don't.
Basically Psyche you shot smoke, got called on it and then whined like a baby for a while. I'm kinda disappointed in you for pulling this after how you've treated other's arguments in racism/religion threads
They are not both self-encompassed tautological statements (one specifies what part of a most I mainly object to, carrying more meaning than what you imply; the other did not constitute an argument, but merely an emphasis on an important part of the argument you cherry picked from), and the proposition that they are has no important on what the statements actually mean.
Yes...that is why I didn't talk only of literal meaning. Get it??In post 120, Tamuz wrote:
You're better than this. You know that the literal meaning of phrases is not the whole meaning of phrases.In post 117, Psyche wrote:not an accurate account of the literal meaning, utterance meaning, or impact of the phrase "Happy Holidays"
In a sense. I don't believe that he is being impacted in the way he says he is. And I believe that the actual negative impact of hearing the phrase is caused not by the phrase at all, but by illegitimate beliefs and feelings.As to the "impact of the phrase"... Who are you to tell TSQ how it impacts him? Are you saying he's lying about his own feelings?
No, that is very different from his thesis, which is that "Happy holidays is bullshit christian normativity". There's a pretty clear distinction between that proposition and the other one, "society operates on a schedule that operates around Christmas." You're equivocating. Again. Or you are imposing your own meaning on the OP.And overall, you miss out. Shea isn't saying that HH/MC DEMANDS you celebrate Christmas and such, the issue is that it is expected that EVERYONE knows and that society operates on a schedule that operates around this spectacle that we call Christmas.Last edited by Psyche on Fri Dec 20, 2013 5:58 am, edited 1 time in total.- Psyche
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all of these statements are falseMaking it a cultural imperative to say happy holidays around christmas time normalizes Christianity as a dominant social group, and that is a pretty bad thing. It leads directly to what things like what happened to me frequently when I was a kid.
happy holidays is an instrument against the normalization of Christianity
and you'll find a negative relationship between people's statements of "Happy Holidays" and people's doing on things that happened frequently to shea when he was a kid
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no i mean people who elect to say, "Happy Holidays" rather than "Merry Christmas" are not the ones otherizing SheaIn post 146, ActionDan wrote:
also proof?In post 143, Psyche wrote:and you'll find a negative relationship between people's statements of "Happy Holidays" and people's doing on things that happened frequently to shea when he was a kid
If you mean doings to jews like shea described over the specific time period of winter that may be because any such statements of 'merry christmas', 'happy holidays', and the like leads to increased benevolence and tolerance in people that celebrate Christmas (at the least) and therefore those people would be inclined to treat everyone better.
well that is wrong, or at least no one has said anything that should convince any reasonable person to believe soIn post 147, ActionDan wrote:The point is that saying 'happy holidays' enforces the view/perception that Christianity is a superior religion to others.
I don't think people choose to be offended. I do think people can be wrongly offended, just as they can be wrongly angry at someone or wrongly unhappy. This shouldn't be controversial.In post 148, quadz08 wrote:I just want to throw this one thing out there -
nobody chooses to be offended
so for the love of god, stop fucking saying shea (or anyone else) is deciding that they are offended by this. You get offended when you feel that something is offensive. Different things are offensive to different people at different levels of offensiveness.
This is not correct. Telling someone that they shouldn't be offended by something is telling them that the beliefs that predicate their offense are incorrect.Don't tell someone that they shouldn't be offended by something, because that's tantamount to saying "your feelings are not as important as mine."- Psyche
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I think you guys's false idea that a given emotion cannot be illegitimate stems from an intuitive theory of emotion that simply is not correct. So now I'm going to give a short and vague introduction to appraisal theory that I will later regret making so short and so vague.
What causes people to feel an emotion like anger, sadness, joy, and - offense? Usually, the answer is beliefs. People extract some sort of meaning, or perceived relation between the persons and their environment, from their situation, and, depending on that perceived relation/meaning, they may feel a certain way.
For example, anger may be triggered if Billy thinks someone has wronged him or someone he cares about.
Other emotions are also possible - sadness, most clearly; which emotion is triggered depends on other aspects of one's perceived relationship with his/her environment. For example, if one thinks he is helpless (there is no way to resolve or obtain justice for his problem), then he may be more likely to be sad. Or perhaps he'll be even angrier.
What's important here, though, is the fact that feelings are predicated on beliefs, and the fact that beliefs may not be accurate.
For example, Billy may be angry because he thinks someone has stolen something from him. If, in fact, he has simply misplaced what he is missing, then his anger is predicated on a false belief. It is an illegitimate feeling. Understand?
Let's have another example. Joe might be sad because he thinks his life promises nothing but different sorts of suffering. If, in fact, he will be incredibly happy tomorrow, he lacks a good reason to be sad. His sadness is not legitimate.
In the same way, if it is incorrect that "Happy holidays" is bullshit Christian normativity, then Shea lacks a good reason to be offended. His offense is not legitimate.
Because of this relationship between emotions and beliefs, "X is offended" is not enough to justify calls to end some practice; it's in fact more important to show that X has good reason to be offended. That's why we don't listen when conservatives get offended by the presence of homosexual teachers in their schools. They are offended for bad reasons.
I hope this little tidbit of psychology that you can read more about by googling "appraisal theory" or "core relational themes" or "Richard Lazarus" will help you approach our objections to your position a little more coherently.- Psyche
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Woo, I win.You assert this, which, sure whatever.
False.and then you conclude that it is incorrect with no reasoning
Nah, I just think I'mYou clearly think you're a moral center of the universe and you're so full of shit with it.right, notmoral. So that's the epistemic center of the universe, as you might put it. And what I'm full of is unwarranted pride, not fecal matter, silly tamuz.- Psyche
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here's my reasoning you said i didnt provideIn post 117, Psyche wrote:Let's make it thorough.
red herringIn post 0, Thestatusquo wrote:I am religiously atheist and culturally jewish. I don't believe in god above, and I certainly don't believe in your little baby jesus. Furthermore, as someone who vividly remembers getting the crap kicked out of him in middle school for being the only jewish kid in the class, I can personally tell anyone who wants to say "it's just being nice! there's nothing wrong with it! it's just PC bullshit." that otherization and the attempted normalization of one religious ideology has real world consequences for real people. It's not just you being nice, it's you actively participating in a system of control that is hurtful and offensive.
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not an accurate account of the literal meaning, utterance meaning, or impact of the phrase "Happy Holidays". Why? Because the literal meaning of happy holidays is not "celebrate christmas". When I and others say it, I do not mean, "Celebrate Christmas" or, more importantly, think that you should, When I and others say it, I do not cause you to celebrate christmas with me.When you say happy holidays, what you are actually saying is "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."
Ignorance about another culture != "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."This is true for two reasons. First, when you wish me happy holidays, you are only demonstrating your ignorance of the fact that the "Holiday" I am supposed to be celebrating ended roughly 2 weeks ago. If someone were to wish you happy holidays on January 9th you would look at them a little funny and wonder what they were talking about. I don't have to do that, because I know what you're actually talking about. You're talking about Christmas. Stop with the patronizing, faux-inclusive bullshit.
And, no. I'm talking about the many holidays I sincerely believe are happening around Christmas.
Ignorance about another culture != "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."The other reason it is true is because Hanukkah is not an important holiday. Like, at all. It is minor as all hell. In terms of important holidays Hanukkah is about as important as boxing day is. To Americans. It just happens to be almost exclusively the only Jewish holiday that Christians know about. It's almost as if this is because they trot it out to act like their Christmas celebrations are somehow secular. They sing 6 Christmas carols and 1 Hanukkah song at the kids "Holiday concert" and they go home in their nice little subaru foresters marveling at how cosmopolitan they all are.
Because the instances of ignorance described here has nothing to do with the Christian normativity thesis as described by TSQ, they have no bearing on the question of whether "Happy Holidays" in fact advances this thesis.
Since these are the only reasons brought up for tsq's argument, but they do not actually support it, tsq's position is unjustified and his state of offension lacks legitimacy.
This post argues more effectively that Christians are ignorant about Hannukah than anything about Christian normativity.
of course, it does more to refute a specific argument than the actual position, which for all i know may be true
My position is more emphatically that "tsq's position is unjustified and his state of offension lacks legitimacy" than that "Happy holidays is not bullshit Christian normativity."
I believe you tried to move the goalposts in response to this reasoning, but that I reacted appropriately. The fact that you did respond to this reasoning makes me wonder why you say that I provided no reasoning for my position.- Psyche
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You never try to approach the arguments. I hope my professors know better than to avoid doing that.In post 185, Tamuz wrote:
I've mostly ignored you because your so full of yourself that there is no real conversation to have with you.In post 183, Psyche wrote:I believe you tried to move the goalposts
You believe you're right cause you agree with yourself. Your statement about right wingers is an example of this.
But whatever, you're young and your in academia. Maybe your professors will force you to grow up, I won't.
No, that doesn't even make sense.You believe you're right cause you agree with yourself.
I believe I am right because every apparently consistent argument put forth about the issue coheres with my position. Guess what will happen as soon as I see an argument that is both consistent and not in accord with my position? My position will change.
That's why I am an atheist. That's why I don't think homosexuality is wrong. So many deepset beliefs of mine have been pushed aside by the force of someone else's argument! Do you want me to change my mind? Show me that I am wrong.
Until you do, I can only assume you're throwing an overgrown temper-tamtrum and hiding behind your experience.- Psyche
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See, this is different from the thesis that Happy Holidays is bullshit Christian normativity.In post 189, Plum wrote:
100% is a tad strong, but I generally agree and sympathize, yeah.In post 158, quadz08 wrote:Also, you won't get any argument from me on the fact that Shea is a dick. I was telling Singer yesterday that if Plum (who, need I remind you, agreed 100% with Shea, meaning that every Jew I know of who has posted here despite totally different backgrounds and temperaments agree on this issue) had written the OP, this conversation would be much different because Shea doesn't know how to bring up arguments without being a dick.
If I were to write the OP, it would say: Please don't think that by saying 'Happy Holidays' you're necessarily being super inclusive of Jews, and presumably of other religious and/or cultural minorities. I for one don't identify with this 'Holiday Season' and in my mind Ḥanukah is not a part of it at all. I think it feeds into the notion that Ḥanukah is Jewish Christmas, which I think is wrong and which I really dislike. I feel like the 'Holiday Season' for which people think it's appropriate to say 'Happy Holidays' is a construct of a Christian culture even though many people celebrate Christmas secularly. I don't think individuals mean anything but pleasantries when they say 'Happy Holidays', and I don't think anyone's bad or mean because they do it, but it still reminds me that the culture I live in will ignore my feelings about my own holidays and culture, and expect me to be pleasant about or even pleased with the way it treats them, above and beyond inundating me with Christmas stuff.- Psyche
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Self-pity is warranted by the lot Plum finds herself with as part of a minority. Reasonable.In post 191, YellowKingValley wrote:
Why the self-pity? You could always invite others to participate in your festival and culture.In post 189, Plum wrote:the culture I live in will ignore my feelings about my own holidays and culture
Why the jealousy? Are you not happy that others are? You can't even justify that they are being happy at your expense.In post 189, Plum wrote:and expect me to be pleasant about or even pleased with the way it treats them,
It's not jealousy. It's unhappiness with subjection to unfair expectations. Reasonable.- Psyche
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Eh. MLK had the ability to do something positive to change it, and even exercised that ability, but it doesn't seem correct to say that if he, during this exercise, felt pity for African Americans, this pity would be unreasonable. Until the bad situation is gone, the rationale for pity stays.In post 197, YellowKingValley wrote:
There's no need to wallow in negative thoughts if you can do something positive to change it.In post 194, Psyche wrote:Self-pity is warranted by the lot Plum finds herself with as part of a minority. Reasonable.
I can accept that.In post 194, Psyche wrote:It's not jealousy. It's unhappiness with subjection to unfair expectations. Reasonable.- Psyche
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Er, no? Shea's post reminds me of Christian normativity, but even if it were read to me 20 times a day, it wouldn't really be pushing it on me.Is there a difference? Seriously, isn't repeatedly reminding someone of normativity one of the strongest ways to push it on them?
It looks like we need a clearer notion of normativity. The definition I used earlier was the one asserted by Shea: "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."
It is flatly inaccurate that people who say "Happy Holidays" think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and that "Happy Holidays" means "Merry Christmas", and that saying "Happy Holidays" makes anyone celebrate anything.
Perhaps you can provide me a morenuancedversion of the concept.
Multiple people are also arguing that feelings cannot be illegitimate. That's what that post was arguing. My other post argued that the feeling of offense in question was illegitimate.Multiple people here are arguing that Shea is entirely correct in saying that "Happy holidays" is bullshit Christian normativity.- Psyche
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At least in one sense, we might say that normativity is thequalityof being normative, like clarity is the quality of being clear. And so Christian normativity might involve being normative with respect to Christianity.
So then what does being normative mean in this context? Making/establishing Christianity [as] the ideal or normal? Prescribing or imposing christian values upon others?
I think the exclusion might be driven by the same attitude that a stranger saying to me, "Isn't God great?" or "Damn she's hot, right?" might. There's an assumption of a universally shared trait that I don't have, and so my otherness gets unduly emphasized and that makes me uncomfortable and different — though not offended.
Happy Holidays is supposed to avoid this effect by referring to all holidays happening in december and very early January, as well as the off-from-work holiday that most of us seem to get. Some people might indeed still be excluded from this pool (but some people might be excluded from statements like "great day!", too), but the assumption that drives the exclusion is supposed to be less unwarranted in America than the one that drives "Merry Christmas".
The problem with this attitude brought up cemtered around the fact that Hannukah doesn't merit the attitude "Happy Holidays" seems to assert. But it seems avoidable to me, if focus is placed on New Years, which people who have a distinct cultural calendar probably still recognize for the same reason they'll say to a stranger that it is December. Is this wrong?
Except it isn't. Christmas is over, but Happy Holidays is still in play until New Years is over, and perhaps until we return to school, right?But since it is used in exactly the same places as the old word or phrase- Psyche
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The way I used to post was so pedantic. I like the way I used to thoroughly think through things (something I don't really do much on this forum anymore), but at the same time I totally missed the point. I can see that as sort of dickish - I glazed over someone's feelings to focus on their argument.
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When you say happy holidays, what you are actually saying is "I think everyone should be celebrating Christmas right now, and I will make you celebrate it with me with a thinly veiled code word for Christmas."
and instead of paying attention to the emotion he was trying to connote, I only concerned myself with whether the statement was concretely true or false (I still think it's plainly false)
I think that if I could do it all again, I'd have treated the OP more charitably and focused more on clarifying the sentiment it conveyed, but still left with the belief that "Happy Holidays" is a suitable, and even effective weapon in the war on Christmas.
It's possible that this difference arises from our different social experiences. Where I'm from (South Carolina), everyone celebrates Christmas and to say "Happy Holidays" is to acknowledge and validate other religions, and even irreligion, in a way that's taboo in my community. "Happy Holidays" is an overtly liberal exercise, and to conservatives it threatens the Christian hegemony they believe holds our nation together; this has even been preached to me countless times in my churches. Seeing someone claim that the phrase in fact an agent of that hegemony just strikes me as ridiculously counterfactual.- Psyche
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In post 292, Thestatusquo wrote:Denying someones experience and telling them they shouldn't be offended is being a dick.
I mean, rationalize it however you want. I'm not the person who has to live with it. I would note that I almost completely stayed out of this discussion last year after I raised the issue because of how painful (your posts in particular) it was to have people constantly deny my experience and my emotions. I'm anticipating a similar vacancy from this thread, but this issue is important enough to me to bring it up again.
Shaft.ed: It must be nice to have the only completely sanctioned break from lab work fall on christians religious holiday of choice so as to make celebrating it easier. I wonder what that feels like.
I think you're just really wrong here. We have to tellsomepeople that they shouldn't be offended. One of the main devices of american conservatism is to be unjustly offended - by public displays of same-sex affection on the streets, by "X-mas" and "Happy Holidays", by people standing in solidarity with victims of racialized police brutality, and so forth. There are so many examples of moments when we areobligatedto tell people that their offense makes no sense. To claim that all experiences of offense are righteous is to subvert their very meaning.
I really, sincerely believe that it's important to make that distinction whether it's applicable here or not and I wish I could make you understand that I'm not doing it because I don't care about how you feel.- Psyche
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Well the claim makes a lot more sense to me now than it did before. To be honest, actually, I think I'm fully in Shea's camp now on the issue. Damn it.
"Happy Holidays" used specifically to connote inclusion of minority religious identities is actually just a mainstream liberal tactic for skirting the actual challenge of Christian hegemony in America. The word choice of "Happy Holidays" gives liberal peoples their special sort of moral self-satisfaction without doing anything to address the issues that drive that word choice in the first place.
It's like proudly announcing, "I don't see race". The sentiment is nice, but it's worse than useless.- Psyche
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yeah clearly intention to offend isn't a good metric
i think a better metric might be to ask, "does this offensive thing actually wrong some person(s)?"
Because whenever someone feels offended, it's because they have this belief that they or theirs has beenwronged, just as whenever someone feels happy it's because they have this belief that something good has happened or something. If that belief is incorrect (no one has been wronged / something good has not happened), then the corresponding feeling is itself inappropriate.
If you agree with me that emotions are based on beliefs about what's going on in the world, then the answer to your question with respect to almost any feeling seems easy to answer.- Psyche
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In post 313, Anatole Kuragin wrote:The disconnect for me is how someone wishing you well in their own cultural way or language or whatever becomes wronging you just because you don't ascribe to the same cultural upbringing or identity that the person wishing you well does. I think it's nice when someone tells me Merry Christmas or Happy Hanukkah despite me not affiliating with any of the religions that those phrases were born from.
No one is claiming that "someone wishing you well in their own cultural way or language or whatever becomes wronging you just because you don't ascribe to the same cultural upbringing or identity that the person wishing you well does", and in fact saying "Merry Christmas" might be better than saying "Happy Holidays" in the contexts shea cares about since at least it isn't disingenuous.
The idea is that "Happy Holidays" gives people moral satisfaction for their inclusivity without really challenging Christian hegemony in our society at all.- Psyche
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In post 314, HorseDetective wrote:In post 312, Psyche wrote:yeah clearly intention to offend isn't a good metric
i think a better metric might be to ask, "does this offensive thing actually wrong some person(s)?"
Because whenever someone feels offended, it's because they have this belief that they or theirs has beenwronged, just as whenever someone feels happy it's because they have this belief that something good has happened or something. If that belief is incorrect (no one has been wronged / something good has not happened), then the corresponding feeling is itself inappropriate.
If you agree with me that emotions are based on beliefs about what's going on in the world, then the answer to your question with respect to almost any feeling seems easy to answer.
But being offended can definitely be a form of being wronged. If I feel like someone has snubbed me or ignored me, that can definitely upset me; particularly so if it happens multiple times. Upset is a form of harm: my life is less good than it was prior to the upset. To argue otherwise, you have to argue that the harm to someone is independent of their perception of how their life is and what the most important things in their life are and that's quite an elitist step to make.
Sure, upsetting someone harms them. But you're confusing causation with this line of thinking.
Let's put it this way. We're trying to examine whether a particular experienceAof being offended at eventXis legitimate or not. But being upset is a totally different and later eventY, and so can only be the basis for a later experienceBof being offended. What you're doing is shifting focus to the legitimacy of experienceB, but it has nothing to do with legitimacy of experienceA.
Did that make sense?
I think it's totally worthwhile to examine whetherupsettingsomeone by saying something they'll appraise inaccurately is alsowrongingsomeone - and I think that in and of itself it is wronging someone but find it hard to blame the speaker for that upset since it stems from corrigible ignorance on the latter party's part - but it's really a different question to be examined by itself.- Psyche
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Okay, you're arguing for a little bit of transitivity. That legit-experience B happens lends legitimacy to experience A. And maybe that's valid. So I'll have to take the strong position that experience B isn't really legit at all and so has no legitness to lend.
Being offended isn't just noting that something bad has happened, but also that someone else has been the agent of that badness.
When someone comes out to their parents as gay, that can upset those parentsa lot, often depending almost entirely on those parents' incorrect beliefs about the moral valence of homosexuality. But I just think it's either the parents' fault for not doing anything previously about their corrigible ignorance on the issue, or no one's fault. To blame someone for doing something that would be wholly harmless but for the ignorance of the people spectating is just a misattribution.
But maybe "coming out" is more clearly blameworthy if it's unnecessary. If we live in a world where the intimacy between a son and his parents is of no import and they don't really live their lives together, perhaps needlessly coming out to those parents and upsetting them (because of how they're currently disposed to react to that info) is actually wronging them similarly to how husband detailing his various affairs to his wife out of an interest in transparency might be needless and cruel.
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Saying that every time someone's offended is legitimate condones every -ism ever...
I don't understand why Shea feels he can speak for the Jewish population as a whole when empirical evidence suggests that the issue is not societal but more a conflict with his own personal ideology.
He posts a lot about how "Happy Holidays" makes him feel, but what's important is the claim that "Happy Holidays" enables the otherization of non-Christians - which is more about what the cultural Christian population is doing than the Jewish population.- Psyche
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I'm just saying what I've already said...
"Happy Holidays" used specifically to connote inclusion of minority religious identities is actually just a mainstream liberal tactic for skirting the actual challenge of Christian hegemony in America. The word choice of "Happy Holidays" gives liberal peoples their special sort of moral self-satisfaction without doing anything to address the issues that drive that word choice in the first place.
And so it sort of protects Christian hegemony, which consists of that otherization, and enables the bullying and discrimination shea detailed earlier as well as more subtle aggressions, causing Jewish people to feel out of place.
Jews can totally be unaware of the harm that comes with "Happy Holidays" and be made in this way to feel out of place because of it.- Psyche
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I wish I could be angry all of the time but it's exhausting and I say things I don't want to and no one hears anything or wants to talk to me and when I'm always priming yourself with images of my minority status studies suggest that I perform more poorly in academics because of stereotype threat; here at Princeton I always think about my minority status in the middle of tests and I didn't used to do that before and I wish I could stop because I can see it taking over a mind that used to be filled with positive feelings and passion about something I loved instead of something I hated but at the same time in all of this righteous anger i feel guilt because i'm not giving myself to that anger and i'm not just majoring in politics or sociology or some other social justice field and living the sort of life that makes a difference but gives me no room to be happy
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