Nikanor wrote:HH wrote:This thought process is what that causes many misunderstandings in relationships. While it's been well over ten years since I've been in the dating pool, I would say that is probably not even the majority opinion. I would also wager that the split of opinion differs greatly based on gender, age, and even where you live.
You mean to say that, where you live, most people don't consider dating two or more people at once to be scummy? Assuming you don't live in Bountiful or something, I find that a little hard to believe. And to make myself clear, I don't mean to say that one or two dates can even qualify as a relationship, let alone a monogamous one. After two weeks, though, I would like to able to assume that the person is interested in me enough that she stops dating other people.
Is the reference to Bountiful some kind of Utah/Polygamy thing?
Ultimately it comes down to the definition of 'dating'. Everybody knows what a date is, but dating itself means different things to different people. It's not unlike many things in this world. One tends to assume that others see things the same way as they do, but that's often not the case. You've just said that someone should know in two weeks that they're interested enough to stop seeing anyone else. That's fair, but what do you mean by interested enough? Does that mean she sees you as marriage material or that she just enjoys your company? There are a lot of people who go out on dates even when they're not looking for or even ready for a relationship.
I'm guessing that you're pretty young, since you said that two weeks was enough time, but one or two dates isn't enough. There's obviously nothing wrong with your outlook, but be sure to keep in mind that a lot of people you run across won't have the same mindset. If it's going to bother you that someone is dating others after a couple of weeks, you're going to want to have that conversation sooner rather than later.
