Scum reading people you like/enjoy playing with
- BlueBloodedToffee
-
BlueBloodedToffee Survivor
- BlueBloodedToffee
- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 23692
- Joined: April 10, 2014
- Location: Liverpool, UK
Scum reading people you like/enjoy playing with
Alright, so I've been burnt quite a bit recently because I don't like scum reading people who I enjoy playing with. I'm not sure whether this sounds stupid or not but I'm just posting this to see if anyone else has this kind of problem and how they deal with it.
Like, I always feel really shitty when I scum read someone I like and push them hard, only for them to flip town. So, rather than risk upsetting or annoying someone I enjoy playing with, I try to find anything that even remotely resembles what could be town motivation and stick with that instead.
This has got to the point where it's causing me to play sub-optimally and I'm just wondering how people approach this problem or if anyone else even has it?Meta this. Meta that. Meta Everything. Meta is not a good scum-hunting tool. PEOPLE CAN MANIPULATE THEIR META. Stop it. Stop. It. Now.- Faraday
-
Faraday ...should I be here?
- Faraday
- ...should I be here?
- ...should I be here?
- Posts: 12126
- Joined: March 29, 2009
- Location: Ireland
- Plotinus
-
Plotinus Kitten Caboodle
- Plotinus
- Kitten Caboodle
- Kitten Caboodle
- Posts: 7611
- Joined: March 13, 2015
- Location: UTC+1
- Contact:
If this is partially about me, I don’t mind if you push me hard. I won’t be angry with you because from what I’ve seen you push based on ingame stuff and I haven’t seen you push me for playstyle stuff or real life stuff like being v/la or whatever. If you make a case against me, I won’t be offended even if you’re wrong. It’s “you’re scum but we won’t tell you why or put any more effort into figuring out your alignment because you’re just scum” stuff that would bother me[1], and you’re not one of the people that does that so it’s fine. Really.
[1] And it might be difficult to get anything alignment indicative out of my response.
“This game would be less fun for me personally if we lynched _____” and “I know I should nightkill _____ but I like them too much” are things I have felt and also said outright at times. In my offsite scumgame that finished back in May, our N1 kill choice was entirely based on “getting nightkilled on night 1 sucks when you were looking forward to playing so we shouldn’t nightkill the person who was nightkilled on night one last time, they should get a chance to play this time. also we shouldn’t nightkill anyone who this is their first game for the same reasons. now that we’ve narrowed the pool down, who would the mod have most likely given a good role to?” (from night 2 onwards we had rolecop results to use instead for our nightkills).
I think for me the hardest is when I have a friend that I know might get upset at being pushed but I don’t know what specifically it is that would upset them and I worry about hurting them accidentally (or just blunder into it and actually do). If I did know someone had certain buttons I would avoid pushing them because making the game less fun for my friends makes it less fun for me too and the response might not be alignment indicative or worse it might make them look bad when they’re really town. But trust is hard and scary so handing your friends a list of things to not do if they don’t want to hurt you is hard, so I kinda don’t know what to do or how to have the “how can I avoid making this unfun for you while still playing to my wincon” discussion with people.The failure mode of clever is asshole.
Modding checklists | Sequencer is in Game 5 | Space II is in Day 4- Vi
-
Vi Professor Paragon
- Vi
- Professor Paragon
- Professor Paragon
- Posts: 11768
- Joined: June 29, 2008
- Location: GMT-5
- Vampirate
-
Vampirate Goon
- Vampirate
- Goon
- Goon
- Posts: 907
- Joined: March 6, 2015
I quite disagree.
When someone you like is scum and you are scum reading them depending on their play, while you are both enemies in your head. You can still admire someone's play and perceived schemes by yourself. Sort of 'so that's what you are up to ' kinda thing.You are not more paranoid than me!!!!- Vampirate
-
Vampirate Goon
- Vampirate
- Goon
- Goon
- Posts: 907
- Joined: March 6, 2015
In post 0, BlueBloodedToffee wrote:Alright, so I've been burnt quite a bit recently because I don't like scum reading people who I enjoy playing with. I'm not sure whether this sounds stupid or not but I'm just posting this to see if anyone else has this kind of problem and how they deal with it.
Like, I always feel really shitty when I scum read someone I like and push them hard, only for them to flip town. So, rather than risk upsetting or annoying someone I enjoy playing with, I try to find anything that even remotely resembles what could be town motivation and stick with that instead.
This has got to the point where it's causing me to play sub-optimally and I'm just wondering how people approach this problem or if anyone else even has it?
Instead of taking it like that consider it a chess match between friends and consider it a challenge.You are not more paranoid than me!!!!- Vi
-
Vi Professor Paragon
- Vi
- Professor Paragon
- Professor Paragon
- Posts: 11768
- Joined: June 29, 2008
- Location: GMT-5
Consider that a lot of games come down to "is this person really that stupid" and the answer is very frequentlyyes they are that stupid. Or you can substitute your own personal judgments about people in place of that example. Point being that this is a very easy game to make or take personal/ly.Everything you say and do matters. People will respond in ways you may never see. May those responses be what you intend.- RedCoyote
-
RedCoyote Jack of All Trades
- RedCoyote
- Jack of All Trades
- Jack of All Trades
- Posts: 8036
- Joined: October 19, 2008
- Location: Houston, TX
...wha... Vi... you don't like me? ;_;
To answer BBT's question though, you just do it with a smile! Frankly, I really do love most of you guys. And the people I haven't played with are just people I will grow to love eventually. I love how everyone has their little personality quirks and it makes the game fun to try and mesh with a different group of people each time.
As town, I do try to read everyone as honestly as I can. If I like the person a lot and I scumread them, then you just tell them how much you love them as you twist the knife in their back.
"This hurts me more than it hurts you!"
The game will always end eventually (unless it's Chess Mafia), so there's always a chance to communicate post game, you know? So I really don't let it bother me.- Vi
-
Vi Professor Paragon
- Vi
- Professor Paragon
- Professor Paragon
- Posts: 11768
- Joined: June 29, 2008
- Location: GMT-5
NO
I jest
I'm fine with liking peoples' personalities 'n' such, but I'm really not up for having to wonder if someone I care about is manipulating me or if I'm hurting them for the sake of something as trivial as a forum game. I have to do that sort of thing often enough without Mafia. For similar reasons, I'm uncomfortable with playing with people I have to see outside the thread for whichever reason.
I'm willing to acknowledge that this is my own problem, a difficulty with separating game from non-game.Everything you say and do matters. People will respond in ways you may never see. May those responses be what you intend.- Metal Sonic
-
Metal Sonic Sun Tzu
- Metal Sonic
- Sun Tzu
- Sun Tzu
- Posts: 11957
- Joined: February 24, 2013
In post 0, BlueBloodedToffee wrote:Alright, so I've been burnt quite a bit recently because I don't like scum reading people who I enjoy playing with. I'm not sure whether this sounds stupid or not but I'm just posting this to see if anyone else has this kind of problem and how they deal with it.
Like, I always feel really shitty when I scum read someone I like and push them hard, only for them to flip town. So, rather than risk upsetting or annoying someone I enjoy playing with, I try to find anything that even remotely resembles what could be town motivation and stick with that instead.
This has got to the point where it's causing me to play sub-optimally and I'm just wondering how people approach this problem or if anyone else even has it?
yeah i have this problem too
theres no cure*
just stop playing with them but be nice and all outside of game
*i haven't found one yet- Fro99er
-
Fro99er Survivor
- Fro99er
- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 16952
- Joined: April 2, 2015
It's fine until it gets to the point it's impolite or insulting. I've been guilty of this myself.
But BBT go scumread me anytime. I know we're cool"I officially announce Fro99er the king of guilties because this is the second time he has guiltied a slot I was really unsure about.
Heil King Froggo.
Ribbit ribbit." -Transcend- Zachrulez
-
Zachrulez Jack of All Trades
- Zachrulez
- Jack of All Trades
- Jack of All Trades
- Posts: 8550
- Joined: December 5, 2008
- Location: Minnesota
-
-
Ankamius Survivor
- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 21802
- Joined: May 9, 2011
- Location: Target Locked. Initiating Combat.
- Espeonage
-
Espeonage anySurvivor
- Espeonage
any- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 11651
- Joined: December 17, 2009
- Pronoun: any
- Location: Existential Dread of my Inner Thoughts
-
-
Benmage Survivor
- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 13727
- Joined: December 20, 2008
Don't worry we were never friends.
hope all is well holmes"ITT Benmage is making Shakespeare look cool. I need to bring you to my high school." -Vi
"If i must blantantly follow somone a player cannot do better than blindly following benmage" - tubby216- BROseidon
-
BROseidon Expert Marxman
- BROseidon
- Expert Marxman
- Expert Marxman
- Posts: 8242
- Joined: April 18, 2013
In post 0, BlueBloodedToffee wrote:Alright, so I've been burnt quite a bit recently because I don't like scum reading people who I enjoy playing with. I'm not sure whether this sounds stupid or not but I'm just posting this to see if anyone else has this kind of problem and how they deal with it.
Like, I always feel really shitty when I scum read someone I like and push them hard, only for them to flip town. So, rather than risk upsetting or annoying someone I enjoy playing with, I try to find anything that even remotely resembles what could be town motivation and stick with that instead.
This has got to the point where it's causing me to play sub-optimally and I'm just wondering how people approach this problem or if anyone else even has it?
Most people handle this poorly, and it's part of the reason I'm not really playing anymore.- Alchemist21
-
Alchemist21 He/HimJack of All Trades
- Alchemist21
He/Him- Jack of All Trades
- Jack of All Trades
- Posts: 8801
- Joined: September 5, 2014
- Pronoun: He/Him
- Location: North Carolina
In post 0, BlueBloodedToffee wrote:Alright, so I've been burnt quite a bit recently because I don't like scum reading people who I enjoy playing with. I'm not sure whether this sounds stupid or not but I'm just posting this to see if anyone else has this kind of problem and how they deal with it.
Like, I always feel really shitty when I scum read someone I like and push them hard, only for them to flip town. So, rather than risk upsetting or annoying someone I enjoy playing with, I try to find anything that even remotely resembles what could be town motivation and stick with that instead.
This has got to the point where it's causing me to play sub-optimally and I'm just wondering how people approach this problem or if anyone else even has it?
I have this problem too. Like Ank said, don't use personal arguments. I'd also suggest reading them for things independent of tone/personality and the like. People will be more upset if they think you should know them better than to say something like, "Player X sounds happy/angry/frustrated, they're probably scum."- Ranmaru
-
Ranmaru Jack of All Trades
- Ranmaru
- Jack of All Trades
- Jack of All Trades
- Posts: 7092
- Joined: March 7, 2011
I don't take it personally when friends push me. It's all business and I'd still push my friends, especially if I think they are scum. I will kill them if I think they are scum. I will happily buddy them if I think they are town. (This comes from a town perspective) Of course, I might feel bad pushing them as scum, yet still I'd push. If I buddy as scum I'd already be thinking of how it'd muddle my towniness as town. (Meaning, I'd lose their trust when I genuinely need it)
Also it depends on our history. Some of my friends have fooled me and have even pushed me as scum and I will never forget those times. So it makes it hard to feel bad when I push them when I truly think they are scum. Now if I'm town and I mislynch them when they are town, I will grieve for them.
Also, I feel this helps me bond with them. For example if I pushed someone who was town, as town, I'd ask for forgiveness and try to ease up the mood, as that situation would have been tense. Since the game (might be over), it's easy to just be relaxed and all happy instead of just cold and cruel. All hugs in end game. That's why I love doing shout outs, and I try to be as respectable to everyone as possible. (Consider I'm the type of guy that gets along with everyone)- ZZZX
-
ZZZX Survivor
- ZZZX
- Survivor
- Survivor
- Posts: 10778
- Joined: July 7, 2013
Scum reading friends can be fun. Many of my best pals here are made with us flaming the hell out of each others and calling each others scum until a random point where we just go 'meh ur town' 'you too'
It can be random. Otherwise nothing serious happens really.
Catching a friend is aweasom. Misltnching them hurts but you get over itImplosion: I see ZZZX wasredacted. For shame, people. For shame.
The Bulge: ZZZX is ZZZX
Get to know a ZZZX: http://forum.mafiascum.net/viewtopic.php?f=61&t=58733- Wisdom
-
Wisdom Of the One
- Wisdom
- Titus
-
Titus She/herMoon Walker
- Titus
She/her- Moon Walker
- Moon Walker
- Posts: 80307
- Joined: May 3, 2013
- Pronoun: She/her
- Contact:
BBT, I play for fun and to read people. Don't deliberately scum or town read me because you like me. That being said, we have a certain implicit bias towards people who like us and who are like us.ShowThe scum had the misfortune of Titus being absurdly accurate on day one.Really quite impressed by that.~Drixx
You're letting Titus win the game by herself.Good luck now I guess.You have no chance to win.~Tywin
GTKTitus Part 2
Titus Academy
VLA Friday nights until Sunday morning.
All hail the Scum Empress!- Bellaphant
-
Bellaphant Jack of All Trades
- Bellaphant
- Jack of All Trades
- Jack of All Trades
- Posts: 7062
- Joined: February 5, 2015
- VysePresident
-
VysePresident Mafia Scum
- VysePresident
- Mafia Scum
- Mafia Scum
- Posts: 1302
- Joined: August 11, 2014
Honestly, I enjoy matching myself against friends - that's one of the biggest draws of playing, for me. Maybe I fool you, or you fool me, or we're both Town shooting each other in the feet, but as long as we can laugh about it afterwards, it's cool. It helps that I usually have a very high tolerance for people.
As for not wanting to call friends out on being stupid...eh, I find most of the world to be kinda dumb most of the time, myself included. It's something I try to handle carefully & constructively, but it's not a dealbreaker. It's not like paranoia doesn't factor into the equation, anyway, and it's hard to blame them for making bad decisions in those circumstances.- Elbirn
-
Elbirn Content Aficionado
- Elbirn
- Content Aficionado
- Content Aficionado
- Posts: 5384
- Joined: November 16, 2014
- Location: [GMT-4]
- Vampirate
-
Vampirate Goon
- Vampirate
- Goon
- Goon
- Posts: 907
- Joined: March 6, 2015
In post 23, Elbirn wrote:So if we can set aside our implicit bias for town reading people we like or are friends with...can knowing someone on a personal level make them significantly easier to read?
Isn't that a double edged sword?
Like if you could easily read them can't it go both ways?
Then it goes, well if he/she knows I act this way, i'll act that way instead etc.You are not more paranoid than me!!!! - Vampirate
Copyright © MafiaScum. All rights reserved.
- Elbirn
- VysePresident
- Bellaphant
- Titus
- ZZZX
- Ranmaru
- Alchemist21
- BROseidon
- Espeonage
- Zachrulez
- Fro99er
- Metal Sonic
- Vi
- RedCoyote
- Vi
- Vampirate
- Vampirate
- Vi
- Plotinus
- Faraday
- BlueBloodedToffee