Yo let me be clear I have no issues with NCN when it's done and handled in a manner that is befitting its tone, which is 1) not publically, generally but if you have to 2) advertised as such.In post 5398, Ghostlin wrote:So, I'm gonna poke the bear a bit, in a respectful way of course. This beginning disclaimer is to mostly say I didn't read the scene in question very deeply, came home after going out for a few hours, went 'holy fuck, this blew up', went to bed and still went 'holy shit'.
Using a magical realist way to make someone essentially down for something (what Nacho called voodoo bullshit) abridges someone's consent, and is rape. Do I think Dreal meant anything by it? Nope, and from what I read he's since apologized--there have been romance novels with worse rape scenes and as a English Lit major/Education minor I just finished a 18th Century lit class where there was not one, but two attempted rape scenes (I use the word attempted because the would be rapist never actually committed the act, he just attempted to). Was it offensive to me as a non-rapist bisexual man in 2017? Fuck yes, butPamelaitself was generally offensive to modern sensibilities. I have read books where it is mentioned (sometimes fairly graphically), mostly in works that are meant to biopic in nature, an acknowledgement that it happened.
The problem again, is I'm 36, going back to college and can interact with such a thing as an adult; and generally university policy is such that I can pull my professor aside and go 'this doesn't work for me' and we can work something out. People may or may not want to interact with it in a mafia game. It's also 2017 and we've come a ways from the bodice ripper novels of the 60s, 70s, and 80s; sexual consent is king (and it should be!) and people have their own beliefs and belong to a diverse amount of sexual community...can I use the words sexual culture? Some people are understandably triggered by even the mention of non-consensual date rapist (magical realist? voodoo date rapist? I don't know anymore) sex, no matter how it might have worked for the character in the game. The players matter.
I'm actually not going to spend a lot of time angry at Dreal (or anyone), this is something that he wrote a novella through the game flavor on, would of made a frankly interesting novel (although you'd find my tastes eclectic), and I don't think he meant much harm in it. I think in this case, on the internet, as a community, it's moreproductiveto frankly talk about these issues when they come up then toscream at each other as being rape apologists/art hating philistines.
So, what's the points here?
*It's a little too late for Dreal to do anything but apologize and promise essentially to be clear what such a flavor would involve. If you want to involve a list mod or moderation on the topic, feel free but the cat is out of the bag.
*Future modsneedto be explicit on what kind of flavor may be included in their game that might trigger their audience (their players), while hanging comes with the landscape and so does murder in the game of mafia (sorry if this surprises you), other things out of it might need to be more explicit. Players need to be well-informed the experience they're about to consume.
*We're a community ofincrediblydiverse people, and it's OK to go 'you stepped on my boundary there. Not cool.' It's even OK to go to adminstration and go 'this part of this game made me feel X' and they can have a say in how future games like that are handled. At the end of the day, tho', we share this space and so telling people they are rape apologists or overreacting is burning bridges. We can be civil to each other outside the game. I respect a ton of users in this thread (also, hi, Nacho) so let's this continue, if it must, in a respectful conversation.
The guy made a mature mafia game where he advertised no NCN and then put in NCN. That's not ok. That's strictly not ok. See: the dick metaphor.