Daily Check-in Thread

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Don't let guilt or shame prevent you from tapping resources you qualify for. You're not a fraud, fake, or scammer for needing the help, even if you don't match your mental image of who would need help. You. need. the. help. Use it! And don't fear rejection. Shoot your longshot! You deserve to live, and deserve to pursue the life you want to live.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! It's okay to have negative reactions to negative things happening, but try not to let those negative reactions dictate your life. Remember the good to be had, the love you have, the love others have. Hold onto it, breathe, rest, refocus, and amplify it. Then move forward with love.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Sleep. Eat at least a brunch, then a snack or dinner. Have at least 1 liter of fluids. Rest. Be late, if you have to be. If you can, go on a short walk. If you can, shower, do other hygiene, etc. And did I mention eat? Rest. Self-care. To the best of your ability. You need it.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Remember, all celebrations are what we make them. If you have negative emotions towards bio family, celebrate chosen family. A mother figure who cared. A parent figure who cared. A now deceased family member. Even yourself if you are one to someone else. Celebrate who matters to YOU. (And/or someone a loved one thinks matters.)

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Going forward, I'm going to try in at least one place list daily/weekly/monthly wins, to help remind both myself and others that despite all of the bad going on in my life, there is still good to be found. I thoroughly recommend everyone do similar, to note all life's wins. It will help provide helpful reminders that there's a lot of good to be had in the world, even in all of the struggles.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. After 'failing' in any perceived way, negative self-talk is natural. When facing it, remember all the times you haven't failed, how you're only human, and have the imperfections that entails. Nobody does things perfectly 100% of the time. So remember, your 'mistakes' happen to everyone! Don't let the need for perfection keep you from seeing how GOOD you are.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Skills needn't contribute to society to still be worth admiring. Those achievements in games you got? Collections you have? Pulls you've gotten? Media you've seen? There are plenty who would stare at awe and jealousy at you having pulled off what you have. Be proud of your life.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Drink and eat whatever you can. To some extent, don't force yourself, but also, you need both at least once per day. Have as much as you can.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Remember, you owe nothing to others you are not owed yourself. If you get sick, you are owed the chance to rest guilt-free. Ditto for other life events. Grief, family emergencies, etc. Your needs especially self-care always come first. Don't sacrifice them out of obligation or guilt.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Sometimes, your body just needs rest. There can be any number of reasons (usually, burnout or illness), and rest needn't be just sleep (although it is the backbone of it), but your body needs what it needs. You'll do yourself a favor by investing in rest.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! The people you love, the spaces/communities you are in, any pets you have, etc.? All of your loved ones are, no matter the struggles, your greatest form of warmth and love. Spending time with those you care about leads to good vibes. Even this love can be draining, but it's worth it. Paradoxically, they can simultaneously drain energy while filling you with renewed energy. Yet as long as the warmth and fulfillment and memories outweigh any physical, neurodivergent, or introvert tax, they will always be worth it. As often as you can, embrace them and support them and vibe with them.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Don't be sorry for what you can't do. You have limits, limits which change year to year, month to month, week to week, day to day, even hour to hour! Your limits change based on what you go through, both physically, mentally, and emotionally. So don't feel guilt for having hit them. You can't do what you can't do, in that moment. And that's okay.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Prioritize your personal world, your loved ones, loved spaces, loved things, and yes, also yourself. (You're part of your own world! The most important part.) Do whatever you have to for them. They are your greatest source of strength and purpose. So nurture them and help them. They're worth investing in.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Some days are going to be harder than others. Hold onto your reasons for living even when you have given up on all hopes. Stay strong.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Don't give up. Hold onto your small wins. Focus on the good, the positives. Find what you did which is a win and all the bad which didn't happen. Do whatever you can to magnify and multiply these small wins. Remember why those wins matter. Stay strong.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Pivot as you need to. It's okay to cancel plans, or to improvise. You might not get to choose what options are available, but you can choose what to do. Things happen. Issues arise. And sometimes that means you can't do what you were planning on. So, don't be afraid to pivot. Be honest, and do what you most want to, within the scope of what you can do.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. If desperation/despair are at highs, then try something you normally wouldn't. You aren't going to have things improve by doing nothing, and if everything you're trying isn't working, then you have to try something else. It's going to suck, but trying is better than not. Stay strong.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! With all of the stressors of life, it's easy to lose track of what's most important. While putting in the work to financially survive/support loved ones is important, what's MOST important is actually spending time with your loved ones doing what you/they love. Nothing matters more. Spend time, quality time, with your loved ones and spaces. They are why you are living your life, so make sure you are putting the time in to live life with them.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in! Remember, healthy relationships are equal give/take. If friends try to help you through your hardest time but are unable to for whatever reason, then that's one thing; they still are trying. But if your 'friends' turn their back on you in your time of need, they weren't friends. Ditto for other types of relationships. Healthy ones have a balance.

There's no shame if your circumstances don't allow for this, in your past, present, or future. Sometimes the reality is those healthy dynamics aren't attainable. But just remember your worth, and what you offer. The things you do which invest time/energy have inherent worth. Words of encouragement, research you do, etc. Those are talents you can provide, and they deserve recognition. Your services are more valuable than you give credit for, so you deserve more than you think you do.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Remember, you have gotten this far somehow; you will continue to find a path forward somehow. It will probably be hard, requiring luck and taking action, more than you want, and some you don't want to, but always, you'll find a way. Some things will be given up. But you'll make it.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Despite your fears and anxieties, you do plenty well enough. Despite your inner critic, you do plenty good enough. Despite all of the times you hate yourself and think yourself worthless and talentless, you are loved and seen as wondrously talented. So keep doing what you do.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. You might not be happy about what you didn't get done, but try and remember all you did do. You didn't do nothing. Really think about all you accomplished. Getting out of bed, self-care, resting, vibing with friends and loved ones, working, progress on a project, reading, watching media, etc. All are something! Think of all you have done without realizing it; you've done plenty.

[rBree2]

Daily check-in. Pay attention to your needs. If your body is shutting down, if you're getting sick, if you sleep for long, listen. You need that time to recover. You might not need to sleep all day, but you probably need a day or two of resting.

Invest in yourself by giving yourself rest.

[Ythan]

Yay I have two days off

[rBree2]

Yay I have two days off

enjoy