In post 447, MonkeyMan576 wrote:If you are telling a kid that he has no chance at success in his life, no matter what his circumtances, then you are doing him a disservice. Sure, a homeless kid has less chance at success than a kid of a CEO of a fortune 500 company, but there are lots of rich kids that fail and lots of poor kids that succeed.
False equivalence. There are far more rich kids who succeed than poor ones who do, and pretending otherwise is ignoring the problem. Moreover, nobody was saying that you should tell your kids they can't succeed. We're telling them that they should be supportive, because more people will succeed if we all pull together than if we pretend that success is a matter of individual hard work.
I'm not going to tell my kids they can't be doctors or lawyers because I make $10 per hour.
And if your kids don't want to be doctors or lawyers? Maybe your son wants to be a short order chef. Maybe that's what makes him happy, but it's not going to make him rich. Are you going to lecture him about how being poor is his fault and he should work harder? And if your son can't be a short order chef if he wants, who will make our hash browns? Or is that career reserved for lazy people who deserve to be poor?
Moreover, two people that were childhood friends of mine were signifiantly less off than my parents were when we were growing up, but he ended up being a laywer and she is a medicial technician. I'm sure they make well over $100K while I am making less than $30K. I don't blame society for this, and I don't say it's luck. I have made some poor decisions at some points, and I have made a decision to put my family before my career. And I don't don't say that they don't deserve their success, because they worked hard to be where they are, I'm pretty sure it wasn't luck.
Anecdote is a not a synonym for data.
But it's wrong to look down on other people that have been successfull, or look down on other people that still believe in The American Dream, because you have had bad things happen to you. Sure, some people are lucky, but there are a lot of people that work hard for their success and deserve every penny of it.
And it's wrong to look down on people who haven't been successful, or to look down on people who realize that "The American Dream" is not something that's attainable by the entire population, just because bad thing have happened to them. Some people are lucky, but there are a lot of people that work hard for their success and will never receive a reward for it.
I'm not saying people don't work hard. If half of what his assistants have said about him is true, Bill Gates was one of the most ridiculously hardworking men in America. But he had a lot of advantages that other people didn't have, and that played a huge part in getting him to where he got. A man could be just as hard working and just as diligent as Bill Gates was, and still wind up dirt poor because the situation he was born into required him to spend his life making short term decision so his kids could eat that day rather than putting together a long term plan for future wealth. But we have the ability to give people opportunity, so that they can achieve success no matter their starting circumstances. And the GOP looks at that and says "Nah, fuck them. They're just mooching because they're lazy."